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Why are my parakeets so scared of me? How can I bond with them?

Updated On September 23rd, 2025

Pet's info: Bird | Unknown - Bird | Female

My two female parakeets have had a huge fear of people for the two years I've owned them. They won't let me pick them up, they don't let me pet them, when I come near they freak out, and hide in the corner when I pick up one of their toys that have fallen. Do you have anything that may allow them to open up to me even a little bit?

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Answered By Dr Stafford, BVetMed, MRCVS

Veterinarian

Published on August 16th, 2017

All you can do is try and get them used to your prescence very gradually, but it sounds like they have a terrible fear. You could try puttibg your hand in the cage for periods oof time with tasty treats and they may eventually learn that yiu are not a threat, but it will be a very difficult process.

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    Answered By Todd Cecil

    Veterinarian

    Published on February 10th, 2019

    Thanks for reaching out. There's a book titled "A Guide to a Well Behaved Parrot" that is a good reference. It is difficult to describe and diagnose behavioral concern without visualizing what is going on. Not all birds are tame. Some just too scared. See if they will come out of their cage on their own (leave door open). They might be more protective of their cage, and less so outside. Good luck.

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    Answered By Angel Alvarado, LVT

    Licensed Veterinary Technician

    Published on October 19th, 2017

    Gradually acclimate them to your presence. Do this by sitting next to the cage for ever increasing periods of time. Initially, tbey will flutter about or move to the far side of the cage. Move slowly and speak softly during this time. End each session with a small treat or reward. Once they have accepted your presence, you can place a hand inside the cage. Be sure all doors and windows are closed and any fans are off. Theywill panic and flutter about again. As in the first step, start with short periods of time and slowly increase as theyaccepts you in his space. Make no attempt to touch or hold them. Allow them to approach you if they are curious. Praise and reward them after each session. Once they begins to show real interest, you can teach them to perch on your finger. Slowly place an extended finger at chest level and say "perch" or "step up" while pressing against the chest. When the bird is comfortable, he/she will hop up on to your finger. Be patient and be consistent, it will not happen overnight.

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